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Five Boosts To Put Less Pressure On Yourself

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Five Easy Ways to Make Your Life Better for 3/17/21

Today’s boosts are about putting less pressure on yourself.

You Don’t Have to Work On Yourself Forever

(Shayla Love | Vice | 3400 words)

Self-improvement can become an unhealthy obsession.

Nobody’s perfect. You can always improve yourself.

This may lead to believing you’re never good enough. Or working so hard to improve that you don’t enjoy life.

I found this article in The Idea Enthusiast

Related: Don’t Challenge Yourself

How to Stop Being a People Pleaser: 7 Powerful Habits

(Henrik Edberg | Positivity Blog | 1600 words)

Being too much of a people pleaser turns you into a martyr, making yourself miserable, and ultimately making those you try to please unhappy as well.

To prevent this:

  • Learn how to say “no.”
  • Remember people don’t care that much about what you say or do.
  • Learn healthy ways to handle criticism, verbal attacks, and disagreements.

It May Be Time to Give Up on Your Passion

(Brian Miller | Thrive Global | 1250 words)

Not every idea is good. A bad idea won’t work no matter how much effort you put into it.

A Job is what you do for money. A Career is a job you love. A Hobby is what you do for fun. A Vocation is something you feel you were born to do, whether or not you make money from it.

Not everyone can turn their vocation into a career. It’s okay to use a boring job to fund your vocation and hobbies.

Related: It’s Okay to Quit – Sometimes That’s a Good Thing

The Life-Altering Practice of Making Cuts

(Courtney Carver | Be More With Less | 825 words)

Write up a list of things you regularly do. Consciously choose to stop doing what’s unimportant, makes you feel bad, or doesn’t work in your life.

Do the same with your worries and regrets.

How to Stop Feeling Productivity Shame

(Jory MacKay | Doist | 3450 words)

You’ll never run out of tasks to do.

If you see productivity as completing everything on your to-do list, you’ll always feel guilty.

If you see productivity as being busy, you’ll spend too much time on unimportant tasks, and any downtime feeling guilty that you’re not working.

Instead, think of productivity as making progress toward important goals. Relaxation is an important part of progress. It’s necessary to recharge your energy and avoid burnout. (Plus live a happy life.)

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Persuasion, Overwhelm, And Hard Conversations – Five Boosts 11/10/20

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Five Easy Ways to Make Your Life Better for 11/10/20

10 Things to Do When You Feel Overwhelmed

(Steven Ray Marks | Self Helping Yourself | 1850 words)

Life can seem overwhelming when you feel like you have more things to do than you’re capable of handling.

I give some strategies for dealing with these situations, based on my experience in fast-paced tech startups, such as:

  • Prioritize and pick one thing
  • Eliminate less important tasks
  • Complete something easy to build momentum
  • Put together a plan
  • Ask if your overwhelm is self-imposed

6 Phrases that Easily Redirect a Tough Conversation

(Steve Adcock | The Ladders | 575 words)

If a conversation goes off the rails and things get heated, calm things down by saying:

  • “I understand what you are saying, but let’s refocus for a minute”
  • “There are plenty of different perspectives here, but remember what we’re talking about.”
  • “I’m not sure I understand enough about that position. Can we talk about [original topic] instead?”
  • “I would rather not discuss politics right now, sorry.”
  • “I remember you saying something about your promotion earlier. How did you get that?”
  • “And speaking of that, did you hear about [mutually interesting topic]?”

3 Simple Ways to Improve Your Mood Right Now

(Henrik Edberg | Positivity Blog | 550 words)

Sometimes you’re just in a bad mood. Some strategies to feel better are:

  • Appreciate what you have
  • Act like you want to feel
  • Give someone a genuine compliment

15 Psychology Tips to Be More Persuasive

(Tanuj Sarva | IYNK | 1875 words)

Some simple strategies to be more convincing.

It’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with these techniques both to use them yourself, and to be aware of when others use them on you.

Some highlights:

  • Explain the reason for your request
  • Compliment the person
  • Talk faster
  • Mirror their speech and action
  • Do them a favor to create an obligation

5 Kinds of People That Make Others Happy and How to Be One of Them

(Leon Collier | Contentment Questing | 1650 words)

Making others happy is one of the best ways to make yourself happy.

Some people are naturals at this, but you can also make a conscious effort. Suggestions include:

  • Send thoughtful emails
  • Plan something nice for your love
  • Listen well

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Improving Skills to Overcome Impostor Syndrome

(Steven Ray Marks | Rockstar Excel | 575 words)

The story of a time I was thrust into a situation where my only options were to fail or to figure out how to do things better.

And how that experience eventually led to me creating my new site, Rockstar Excel.

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Money, Change, and Relationships – Five Boosts 11/3/20

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Five Easy Ways to Make Your Life Better for 11/3/20

6 Strategies to Never Lose a Job and Have Rapid Career Growth

(Steven Ray Marks | Self Helping Yourself | 1925 words)

You can quickly get promotions, and avoid ever getting laid off, with these tactics:

  • Fill a vital function, and do a good job of it
  • Bring in or save more money than you cost the company
  • Be a rockstar at something
  • Be the one who understands how things work
  • Be someone people are happy to work with
  • Be a beast who does a massive amount of work

None of these are gimmicks. Ultimately, they come down to adding value to the company. But most of these are strategies that anyone can do with a concerted effort.

7 Cognitive Biases That Make Us Suck at Time-Management

(Becky Kane | Ambition & Balance by Doist | 4175 words)

Humans are irrational in many ways, but being aware of these can help us overcome them.

This is a long article, but well worth reading, as it suggests solutions to some of the most common mistakes we make in how we spend our time:

  • We focus on urgent but unimportant tasks, instead of the tasks that would yield greater rewards.
  • We can’t stop thinking about all the things we need to get done.
  • We underestimate how long it will take to do things.
  • The sunk cost fallacy
  • We overvalue the present and undervalue the future.
  • We get bogged down in complexities instead of taking action.
  • We pursue things that we think will improve our lives, but don’t make us happier.

How to Create a Budget

(The Millennial Money Woman | 4550 words)

A simple, step-by-step process for:

  • Understanding where your money is going
  • Getting your spending under control
  • Creating a plan for your future finances

6 Times When It’s Okay to Call it Quits and Start Over

(January Nelson | Thought Catalog | 500 words)

Your life path isn’t set in stone, and it’s okay to change directions. Some signs you should consider doing so are:

  • You realize you’ve been making yourself miserable
  • You realize this isn’t want you wanted
  • The only reason you haven’t changed directions is that you feel like you aren’t allowed to
  • You spend every day in tears

As someone who walked away from a successful and lucrative Accounting/Finance career because it made me unhappy, this article really resonated with me.

23 of the Best Relationship Goals to Nurture Intimacy

(Barrie Davenport | Live Bold & Bloom | 6000 words)

It’s important to maintain intimacy in a long term relationship.

These are some excellent tips for making sure that a close, loving, intimate relationship lasts for a lifetime, including:

  • Prioritize each other
  • Communicate with kindness
  • Plan for fun together
  • Perform regular acts of thoughtfulness
  • Have daily connection time

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25 “Healthy” Foods that are Making You Fat

(Steven Ray Marks | Self Helping Yourself | 2325 words)

There are a lot of foods that are generally thought of as healthy, but contain far more calories than people realize.

It’s easy for people to think they’re doing everything right when it comes to healthy eating, but fail to lose weight because they’re eating way too much of these.

These foods may not be bad for you. But they need to be eaten in moderation, like every other food.

Examples include:

  • Fruit juice
  • Nuts
  • Restaurant salads
  • Avocados
  • Whole grain rice

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