Five Easy Ways to Make Your Life Better for 11/24/20
Anger and Hate Hurt You More Than The Target of Your Rage – But You Don’t Have to Feel Them
(Steven Ray Marks | Self Helping Yourself | 1075 words)
Anger and hatred consume your thoughts, mindset, and soul, while doing nothing to improve the world or change those you’re angry at/hate.
To feel anger and hatred less, and take ownership over your own happiness:
- Minimize exposure to triggers
- Build the mindset that anger is a choice
- Stop complaining to break the anger habit
How to Get Better
(Mark Manson | 1425 Words)
Therapy helps because talking over problems separates negative thoughts and feelings from your sense of self, changing unhappiness from the subject to the object.
The same is true of journaling and meditation, which is why they’re effective as well.
Be Specific
(Josh Spector | For The Interested | 725 words)
Specificity forces you to be clear, focused, and unique. Your life will be better if you’re more specific about:
- Goals
- Audience
- Communication
- Requests
- Success
Change Someone’s Mind: 6 Secrets From Research
(Eric Barker | Bakadesuyo | 3375 words)
To change someone’s mind, you need to get them to change their own mind. Be a respectful partner, not an adversary.
Ask why they believe their beliefs with genuine curiosity, not to find “gotchas” or attack. Ask how certain they are, and to make comparisons on a scale of 1 to 10. What evidence would change their mind?
And be open to learning from them and changing your own mind.
I found this article in Josh Spector’s For The Interested newsletter. (Josh Spector also wrote the “Be Specific” article above.)
Related: How to Win Allies and How to Stop Making Enemies
The Mistake Smart People Make: Being in Motion vs. Taking Action
(James Clear | 925 words)
Motion is planning and research. Action is doing and creating things.
Sometimes you need to plan and research. But you’ll never accomplish anything without action.
Often people get stuck on motion, thinking it’s productive when really they’re procrastinating.
Set a schedule or hard deadline to take action.
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